Part Two of TOWARD A SELF-TALK MANUAL

SELF-TALK

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TOWARD A SELF-TALK MANUAL FOR COACHES AND COACHEES




For the Coaching Client

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It is obvious that for every challenge, obstacle, and threat, there are scenarios within our reach to select, to determine the outcome we choose and that no outcome is a ‘done deal’.  The time and energy we project making the feared outcome so real that it stifles and depresses us, is the same time and energy we can use in self-talk, writing our reality into production and in mentally rehearsing the better and more ideal outcomes.  Coaches and clients can work on this and each will support the achievement and satisfaction they are envisaging in their immediate futures.

The manual you develop will be based on your own experience with self-talk replacing self-doubt and chronic ‘I can’t see that happening’.

Here is a chart.  If you are tired of charts, get rid of the others and use this one.  THE SELF-TALK MONITORING AND MOTIVATION CHART

Monday	Tuesday	Wednesday	Thursday	Friday
Spiritual self-talk -for cleansing and focus	Imagining the highest and best – for creativity	Intellectual self-talk – for ability to be logical and to deliver	Action self-talk – for get-up-and-go steps and energy	Fun and joy self-talk – to raise level of happiness
Topic = matter at hand
Scenario: whatever you devise or determine

You could do a seven-day chart but this is just an example. What else could you add to this on Saturday and Sunday?  Maybe do a review and make remarks about how great this is turning out. By the end of a few months, you will have made your own tool to keep on track and to keep talking powerfully to yourself every day, because you know that you have done it before and that it works.

A number of theories as well as established facts in neuroscience are increasingly supporting the idea of not only the influence of mind over matter, but that mind and matter may be one and the same, in the sense that the brain is influenced by our thoughts and that it flexes at our command (our unflinching focus). To take it further, it is supported too that objective reality is under our own influence as we observe it.  As if we are not yet confused, the sum total is that space and time and future reality are all intertwined. Befuddling and enlightening is what it is, at the same time, but with great implications for how we look at what can and cannot be. We will delve into these matters further at another time.

Let me know how powerful you have become talking to yourself.

(c)copyright 2009 Hyacinth E. Gooden-Bailey & Sapience Coaching

Hyacinth E. Gooden-Bailey,M.A.  is a Life Transitions Coach (specializing in cross border transferees, pre-retirees, mid-life executives, career-changers and multicultural groups) , writer of poetry, short stories and novels.  She has vast international experience both as a foreign-language teacher, trainer and manager.  Readers may contact her at heb@sapiencecoaching.com, and register for her weekly teleforums and free bi-monthly eZines.

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